Read Between The Lines

 I recently found myself reading into situations as my mind most often does like a knee jerk reaction.

One friend of my son who had always came slept over at hour previous home; a flat suggested our new home was too small for him to have a sleep over! Lol! It was initially funny and strange at the same time, like how does that change when we moved from a flat to a house. Whilst my son found it offensve, I wrote it down to lack or courtesy and good manners. I know I don't raise my son to go around making opinions about people's lives no matter how different they are to him. That said, he was having a break from this friendship. 

To be honest, this freindship was on it's deathbed and this kid had been getting worse with his under hand bullying tactics because he was hurting about a new freidnship my son had developed who is a mutual friedn. Well, we wish you well for the future. We owe no one an explanation about why we invest how we invest, so if you judge us based solely on what you see, good luck!

The next line within the space of the same summer holiday was the mother of the mutual friend telling her son who told my son errmmm.....I am sorry your dad doesn't work. My son was perpelexed and asked him why do you say that. His response was that because my mother said that "such people can't afford those kind of holidays" Well, we did not understand the context of that statement as that was all the detail we had. His friend did not say any more than that but what confused me was this was said right after we returned from Turkey on an all inlusive holiday packed with many excursions lol! My husband is in fulltime employment and we have no financial issues and have never had to go to ask for help from anyone, not even the Government. If anything we have paid more into the government coffers but that said, let them fabricate what makes them happy, for we know it's a projection of the state of their lives.

That night I slept for only three hours, tossing and turning and wondering why people could be so venomous and toxic at a point where we had just made strides in our property ownership journey which was not without it's heartbreaks of our favourite house falling through and being gazumped. In the end we got what was next available, without a chain and could be closed in 6 weeks without any queries. That explanation was unecessary but I had to throw it in for context.

In conclusion, when people show you who they are, believe them! Clearly, our progress has ruffled feathers. Like when were we in competition for people to have such deep digs at us? I am so proud of my growth. Whilst we raised the first comment with the first parent because of how hurt our son was, for the second one I just ignored it, in fact I didn't bother raising it with my husband but I will advise him to steer clear from these people as he opens up more to them than I do and he has given them leeway to "attack" If you feel you are in a better position, why "attack" those you see as less fortunate? I sympathise with them because their hearts must be deeply troubled. They do not know our jourbney and whilst we have just started, I hope they are happy with their destinations so far!

Cheers to the future.

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